I think back to when I was 5 years old. No cares in the world except for the care of my family and friends. Even though so little and with not much on her plate, frustrations seemed to be an irritating experience. I guess after 16 years I've learned to manage it.
We've all been through this feeling. It starts at such a young age.
It could've just been that time when you couldn't tie your shoes correctly, hangout with your older siblings and their friends, or when you couldn't do what you wanted because someone said no.
I saw a different side of me when I didn't get what I wanted or when I just couldn't understand why.
We become frustrated because we do not have control over our circumstances or we do, and don't know exactly where to begin or, if we even want to. We realize this energy only takes up time and space away from feeling appreciative and grateful for what we already have or have had.
The outside circumstances of this life affect us only if we let it.
When we dwell on certain aspects of life, at some point we come to the realization that it just isn't worth it. It's not worth it for the person, the relationship, the thought, the work, and the feeling.
What to do when you become frustrated.
Firstly, recognize that feelings only last 90 seconds. Will you let it stay so you can grow from it? So you can get to honestly know the self? or will you turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms? Victimize yourself, and engage in negative self-talk?
Once you've decided not to partake in unhealthy coping mechanisms (Which includes the other options)...
1) Stop what you're doing. Look at your hands... now flip them over. Are you even real? Do you see what I see? Because what I see a privileged individual. I see the hands of a creator, one who is in charge of his or her own life. One who can do as they please if they really, really wanted to.
2.) Take a moment and notice this rush of feeling, no need to name it but witness it. Now breathe, really inhale through your nose for 3 seconds as you stick out your stomach, then hold it for 6 seconds, after exhale out your mouth for 9 seconds as you suck in your stomach. Now how do you feel?
3) Give yourself time to go for a walk whether it is outside or around your house. Stretch, breathe more. Do something away from whatever you're doing for, 5-15 minutes. It only takes 5.
Understand this, no matter the circumstance, when one door closes, another one opens. These five minutes of self-care will do you so well. Even if you just took a big breath in, because you took some time for yourself, you'll now be feeling more at ease or accepting of what needs to be done and with what has been.
In the case of me as a child, getting frustrated because I couldn't tie my shoe. If I were to just breathe, wait a little, give myself some time instead of fussing over it, I would have succeeded in some way shape or form. Why? Because I was patient, compassionate, and understanding towards myself. I remained calm. Even if I still hadn't gotten it done i would've been more accepting towards the outcome.
We are all divine spiritual beings.
We think this life is all about work, money, and play. We frustrate ourselves with these thoughts because we are not where we want to be, or we are and don't know how to be. Ideas like these can get us to feel- don't be scared of it. Also, don't get mad at yourself for feeling those ways. If we didn't feel, we wouldn't be who we are, we wouldn't be alive.
Getting older, we become (I hope) more aware of who we are. We feel frustrations in order to reflect back on ourselves. We reflect back on, our judgment of self, our love for what we do, and this life, our purpose- why am I here? Why am I doing this?
These answers coincide with your life specifically. Everyone's journey is different. Take these answers into consideration and if you don't like them- change them.
I GET IT.
Money rules the world nowadays and it seems to be a frustration of many because of the connotation that it holds- 'freedom.' I for one can sympathize with the idea and want, but do not forget about love. Love is the true freedom. With this, you get freedom from unhealthy thoughts, coping mechanisms, and people. You cannot run from yourself forever.
Frustrations are just one of the many, unhealthy reactions.
Our frustrations get in the way of our 'time,' true desires, and manifestations. We will not get what we want if we do not control this. We can only control this part of ego, if we have love for ourselves. Forgive yourself- that is love.
Relax and let go of what is. Do better now that you know better.
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